Covenant to Care Backpacks for Foster Children
 

Lori Taylor

Each year, Calvary Church works with a local social worker, through Covenant to Care, to provide backpacks loaded with school supplies for foster children in New London County. This mission is so important to these students, especially with all the uncertainty for the 2020-21 academic year.  Like most things, the sign up is a little different this year. You can sign up for a specific student through this link: https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10C094BAEAE2CA6FE3-calvary

Most stores have curbside pick-up for your convenience, Staples even has a program that pulls all the needed items together for you based on grade level.  In addition to the usual school supplies, the following items will be useful for all students: hand sanitizer, masks, wipes, headphones, and individual dry erase boards with markers.  If you would like a list of suggested supplies, please contact Lori or Alexa.

It’s understandable that many of you may not feel comfortable shopping for a student this year, please consider making a monetary or gift card donation instead.  As a guide, the average elementary school backpack with supplies is around $50, middle school/high school supplies average around $75.  Of course, a donation in any amount is welcome!  Donations can be mailed or dropped off at the church.

All backpacks need to be dropped off at Calvary by Sunday, August 30.  Remember to label your backpack with the student’s name!

If you have any questions, contact Lori Taylorlorit1227@me.com or Alexa Garvey alexajgarvey@gmail.com.

 
Calvary Episcopal Church
Responding to the concern: Does 'Black Lives Matter' leave out everyone else?
 

The Rev. Gillian R Barr, The Rev. Dan Schatz, Betsy Stevenson

Some Calvary parishioners have expressed concern that the ‘Black Lives Matter’ movement is exclusionary and would be better expressed as ‘All Lives Matter,’ that the phrase ‘All Lives Matter’ more closely aligns with Jesus’ preaching of compassion for all people.

Yes, ‘All Lives Matter.’ Absolutely. But what the Episcopal Church and much of our society are recognizing through the death of George Floyd and too many other people of color is that, while all lives should matter, black lives in particular are too often treated as though they do not matter. The phrase ‘Black Lives Matter, Too’ doesn’t make a powerful slogan, but is the point that the ‘Black Lives Matter’ movement is making.

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An analogy that has been helpful in explaining or understanding the intent of ‘Black Lives Matter’ is that of a fire.  When the fire department directs their hoses at a house on fire, no one from two streets over protests and says, “Stop focusing on that house--All Houses Matter!” We understand the need to pay attention to the one house which is actually on fire and in danger.  Likewise, the phrase Black Lives Matter is meant to draw our attention to the issues in society which are putting Black lives in particular and distinctive danger.

For a thoughtful examination of these concerns, we have permission from Dan Schatz, Minister with the Unitarian Congregation of West Chester, PA, to share his response when asked to change a sign in front of the church reading ‘Black Lives Matter’ to ‘All Lives Matter.':’

“As a Unitarian Universalist minister, it is sometimes my role to answer correspondence that comes to our congregation from members of the community. Last night, I received this brief note in my inbox:

‘Good Evening: I am very upset at the signage that is outside of your church stating that ‘Black Lives Matter.’ Since when has God chosen to see us by the color of our skin. The sign should be taken down and replaced with ALL LIVES MATTER. How will this nation of ours ever join together if we are constantly looking at everyone by their race. Unless you were actually there in Ferguson or in New York or Cleveland, you do not have all the facts.’

It’s a sentiment I’d heard before, and I gave a great deal of thought before sending the following response:

‘Dear [name], Thank you for writing with your concern. Of course all lives matter. Central to Unitarian Universalism is the affirmation of the inherent worth and dignity of every person. Sadly, our society has a long history of treating some people as less valuable than others. Study after study has confirmed that in equivalent situations, African Americans and Latinos are treated with deadly force far more often than White people, and authorities held less accountable. Unfortunately, racial bias continues to exist even when it is no longer conscious—this too is confirmed by multiple studies. A lack of accountability in the use of force combined with unconscious bias is too often a deadly combination – and one that could place police officers, as well as the public, in great danger.

To say that Black lives matter is not to say that other lives do not; indeed, it is quite the reverse—it is to recognize that all lives do matter, and to acknowledge that African Americans are often targeted unfairly (witness the number of African Americans accosted daily for no reason other than walking through a White neighborhood—including some, like young Trayvon Martin, who lost their lives) and that our society is not yet so advanced as to have become truly color blind. This means that many people of goodwill face the hard task of recognizing that these societal ills continue to exist, and that White privilege continues to exist, even though we wish it didn’t and would not have asked for it. I certainly agree that no loving God would judge anyone by skin color.

As a White man, I have never been followed by security in a department store, or been stopped by police for driving through a neighborhood in which I didn’t live. My African American friends have, almost to a person, had these experiences. Some have been through incidents that were far worse. I owe it to the ideal that we share, the ideal that all lives matter, to take their experiences seriously and listen to what they are saying. To deny the truth of these experiences because they make me uncomfortable would be to place my comfort above the safety of others, and I cannot do that.

I very much appreciate you writing to me, and am glad that we share the goal of coming to a day when people will not be judged, consciously or unconsciously, on the basis of their race. I believe that day is possible, too, but that it will take a great deal of work to get there. That work begins by listening to one another, and listening especially to the voices of those who have the least power in society. If nothing else is clear from the past few weeks, it is painfully evident that a great many people do not believe that they are treated fairly. Healing begins by listening to those voices and stories. “

Look with pity, O heavenly Father, upon the people in this land who live with injustice, terror, disease, and death as their constant companions. Have mercy upon us. Help us to eliminate our cruelty to these our neighbors. Strengthen those who spend their lives establishing equal protection of the law and equal opportunities for all. And grant that every one of us may enjoy a fair portion of the riches of this land; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. Prayer for the Oppressed, Book of Common Prayer, page 826

 
Can I make a difference?
 

How can I help?

Many of us have been prayerfully considering this question. Everywhere we look the need for help is profound: protecting public health, restoring the economy, bringing about an equitable society, healing the rifts in our country.

Are you looking for the best match between your skills and interests and the greatest areas of need? A way to find what is available is by registering with the Connecticut VOAD (CT Voluntary Organizations Active in Disaster). VOAD is a humanitarian association of independent voluntary organizations which may be active in all phases of disaster. ECCT (The Episcopal Church in Connecticut) is a member of CT VOAD.

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Volunteer Opportunities

Once registered, you can sign up for volunteer opportunities that CT VOAD has ensured are effective, networked and safe. Currently critical areas of need are:

  • making medical care more accessible

  • feeding the hungry

  • housing the homeless

  • helping the undocumented

CT VOAD wants to build up their volunteer base now so that they will be ready for emerging areas of need. These include the upcoming elections, hurricane season, volunteer management, helping animals and assisting people struggling with burnout, stress and compassion fatigue.

To learn more about CT VOAD, go to https://ctvoad.communityos.org.

To register to volunteer go to https://dart-ct.communityos.org/.

 
Advent Wreath Making
 

Sunday December 1, 11:30 a.m.

Join us after the 10:00 a.m. service on Sunday, December 1, for Advent wreath making and instruction, if needed. Evergreens and wreath trim will be here for you. Please bring garden shears. We recommend hunting through your yards now to collect pine cones, rosemary, lavender, laurel, hydrangea blossoms, ivy and other natural ornaments to decorate your wreath and to share. If you have a ring from last year, please bring it with you. Calvary will provide supplies at cost: $4 rings, $4 candles, and $4 greens.

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The Origins of the Advent Wreath

The origins of the Advent wreath are found in the folk practices of the pre-Christian Germanic peoples who, during the cold December darkness of Eastern Europe, gathered wreaths of evergreen and lighted fires as signs of hope in a coming spring and renewed light. In Scandinavia during winter, lighted candles were placed around a wheel and prayers were offered to the god of light to turn “the wheel of earth” back toward the sun to lengthen the days and restore warmth.

Christians kept these popular traditions alive and, by the 16th century, Catholics and Protestants throughout Germany adapted these symbols to celebrate their Advent hope in Christ, the everlasting Light. The tradition of the Advent wreath spread to other parts of the Christian world. Later, Eastern European Christians adopted this practice. By the 16th century, advent wreaths looked much as we know them today.

An Advent wreath traditionally contains four candles — three purple and one rose, but four white candles or four violet candles may also be used. Purple dyes were once so rare and costly that they were associated with royalty. The three purple candles in the Advent wreath symbolize hope, peace and love. These candles are lit on the first, second and fourth Sundays of Advent accompanied by a short prayer. The rose candle, symbolizing joy, is usually lit on the third Sunday.

Each day at home, the candles are lighted, perhaps before the evening meal — one candle the first week, and then another each succeeding week until December 25. Sometimes, a fifth candle is placed inside the Advent wreath. This candle, the Christ candle, is lit on Christmas Day. It is white, the color associated with angels and the birth of Jesus.

 
Calvary Episcopal Church
Getting Ready
 
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The Altar is a significant place of peace and hope.  The articles that surround the altar and rest on it have been passed along from our church families for decades.  Every sacred piece has been either polished, washed, ironed or combed and carefully positioned to its same location each Sunday.

The significance of this setting has not been lost on our young acolyte who is stretching out every inch of his short frame to light the special, tall candle.  Although he is still young in his journey to reach spiritual maturity, there are stirrings in his soul.  He has a front row seat each Sunday and watches the impact the altar and Holy Eucharist have on our parishioners. He sees people many years his senior approach the altar…some anxious and troubled.  He watches them leave the altar with a renewed sense of peace and optimism.

He thinks to himself:  “My job is really important.  I feel good about this place. I like it here."

~ Dick Wertz

 
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A Seeding
 

Planting a seed is like planting an intention, and you wonder what will sprout from it. Conversely, planting an intention is a seeding, and what grows from that seed is often a wonderful unfolding.

Because an intention has a thought behind it....in meditation it is called a seed thought. A seed thought precipitates insight, just like seeding clouds precipitates rain.

So the seed we planted was the renovation of the neglected and blighted entryway in our church office building. The Sellers building is an old house converted into an office space decades ago, and improvements to this poor old house have been pretty slapdash. The walls have been painted an anemic yellow to prevent plaster cracking but other than that, it gives offa tired feeling just to stand in those rooms.

When I became sexton (caretaker) of Calvary Church over the summer, I felt inspired to tackle this sad entryway which had actually very good architectural bones. It featured a parquet floor, a curved wooden staircase banked by a lovely curved plaster wall, which must have been a feat to create in itself, and atop the curved wall, two niche shelves which were bare. The balustrades had been stripped to bare wood, as had the paint on the steps, and the plaster walls had large crumbling patches. The parquet floor was covered by a patchwork of industrial entry mats, and the wainscoting under the staircase was obscured by big boxes for donations which cluttered the whole area. An old radiator on your right as you passed into the offices was rusted and hideous to the eye.

It has taken months, as I first spread spackle on the failing plaster back in July and it is now dead winter, but with Stuart, my husband and co-sexton now, helping we took on the preparations and have just put the finishing touches on this space, with a warm mango yellow accent wall curling around the newly painted stairs and banister, which have decorative treads, painted trim work, and topped off with a St. Francis statue in one niche and a vase of silk flowers in the other niche.

This little foyer looks loved for the first time in decades, and while I was joking that it is “lipstick on a pig”—as this building is oft maligned by visiting parishioners and staff—in fact, it looks almost elegant and has inspired some discussion about what might be tackled next: renovate the rector’s office? Rearrange the upstairs offices to a more efficient and useful configuration? Paint them with flair and let the staff choose their own color schemes? Upgrade the old toilets? Jettison all the unused junk and supplies which have accumulated in the corners over many years? So much energy is now being unleashed!

We are preparing the ground for new leadership as we look for a new rector, and this new seeding has fallen on the fertile upturned soil of a parish which is going through upheaval and much change. The turning over of the established order of things has been difficult and often painful. But I am witnessing the faith of the parish pushing on through like a determined germinating seed sending out a powerful thrust of growth from its shell. Look at what is emerging above the ground around the church grounds—look at the tiny snowdrops blooming by the door yard of the old stone foundation. Parish spring is almost here!

The seed of intention planted by renovating the foyer space is beginning to sprout now and grow some roots and branches, as ideas come forth for this old house we inhabit day-in-and- day-out, and in time I have no doubt there will be beautiful fruit coming forth—in what forms? I can only begin to imagine!

~ Alice Despard

 
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